Ruby Tuesday – Manners Maketh the Man – or Woman!

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Naughty Ruby dipping her home made biscuit into her tea! (altho she will have to nibble it down to size first!)

We went to a bit of a gathering the other evening – lots of people, kids and food. I was watching one young girl with equal degrees of fascination & horror as she climbed on tables (all four limbs) and seemed to be on a feeding frenzy – with the need to maul every bit of food she could reach!!

We don’t have kids – but I can’t judge one little bit. You should see the lack of manners our Siamese has!! I swear he would nick food off your fork as it travels from your plate to your mouth if he could!! (Put the same food in a cat bowl and say its for him and he will disdainfully walk away shaking each paw and give you a Look.)

This child triggered a memory of a story Ruby told me about when she was staying with her Aunty Mabel in Melbourne. Ruby was 9 years old – so we are talking about 1925.

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Finding colour in winter is getting harder!

Aunty Mabel took Young Ruby across town with her to go to an afternoon tea at her future sister in laws place. Apparently the whole tram trip over was one long lecture about how she was to behave, finishing off with the fervent instruction “And whatever happens – DON’T dip your biscuit in your tea!!!”

The ultimate disgrace!! I swing back to 2016 in my mind and try to think of a situation where you would be in disgrace for dipping your bikkie in your tea!! (Note to non-Australian readers – Biscuit=cookie)

Afternoon tea went well. The future sister in law also had a daughter the same age as Ruby. This young girl announced to Ruby that “I’m not allowed to dip my biscuit, but you are” Ruby realised that this girl had, had the same lecture before their arrival.

Young Ruby whispered back “I had better not” Present Day Ruby says she certainly didn’t want a lecture all the way back home again!!

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Ruby’s winter tomatoes going surprisingly well!

A number of years later, when Ruby was nursing, she recalls an evening where she took a break – with that tea and biscuit – and a photographer happened to be about. Guess who was in the local newspaper dipping a biscuit in her tea?? Apparently the Hospital Matron was Not Impressed.

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Ruby in her early nursing days!! I tease Jeff about wearing something like this to work instead of the uniform he has!!!

I guess every generation feels that the new generation lacks the discipline of the former one. Ruby’s mother kept a leather strop hanging by the fireside in the kitchen. Her hand only had to generally twitch in that general direction for the children to shape up. If things got really bad, she might actually take it down and bang it on the table. The sound was always enough to stop whatever shenanigans the siblings were up to. Ruby said they never got hit with the strop, but certainly felt their mothers hand on occasions with a spank on the bottom!

Men could work in the paddocks and swear if needed, but they never did (swear) in front of the women and children.  Communities were smaller and people relied on each other for support and business – that meant being respectful and behaving in a respectful manner to those about them. It made it easier for people to live comfortably in their environments with other community members.

Families would come to visit, the husbands would go out onto the farm for hours, the mothers would have tea and talk inside while the kids were given a bit of bread and jam and sent outside to play.

Children did a lot of entertaining of themselves outside. Ruby was describing some of the games they used to play – Black Pudding (which I knew as ring-a-ring-of-rosy) ball games, hide and seek and those such games.

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Surprising little blooms up in the back yard

I was surprised to learn that they didn’t play beach cricket! The reason?? Balls were too easily lost in the water! The little things we don’t think of, as now we would buy a bag of cheap tennis balls just for the occasion… a lost ball for Ruby and her sister and brothers meant no more ball games until a birthday or Christmas where you might be lucky to get another one! Broken or lost items had to be mended or you went without. It made them be very mindful of taking care of their things right from the start.

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Broccoli old and new doing fine

We live in a society were it is all too easy to replace lost/broken items without a thought – where in Ruby’s day, when you wore the elbows out on your cardigan, you didn’t throw it away and replace it. Nope. You took the sleeves off and reattached them on the opposite sides to start wearing out the other side!!

I can’t begin to tell you how much I would not do this. I may knit, but I have an allergy to sewing!! 😀

How how was discipline in your childhood? Strict? Lax? Smacks didn’t really bother me, but I hated being yelled at – I dissolved! One of my sisters, well… you could yell at her until you were blue in the face and she wouldn’t care! But a smack!! She couldn’t hack the pain! My smart mother dished out the punishment where it was effective!

Probably the most effective punishment we all agreed on over our afternoon of dipping biscuits in tea was depriving a child of a luxury or outing. All generations from Ruby to me agreed that it was the thing that worked very well when put to good use! (A holiday at my grandparents was cut extremely short because of my & my sisters appalling behaviour. We didn’t think Mum and Dad would follow through with their threat but they did!! We didn’t forget that ever!!!)(Although I am fairly certain it wasn’t my fault!) 😀

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Ruby’s amazing lemon tree going strong!

Hope your week has started fantastically

Cheers!

 

 

 

Author: Lisa

A happy traveller through life! Right now living in NW Tasmania with a gorgeous Nurse-Husband, a fool of a Siamese Cat and several chickens. We love our fairly simple lifestyle of growing a lot of what we eat and enjoying the stunning surrounds of our little patch.

8 thoughts on “Ruby Tuesday – Manners Maketh the Man – or Woman!”

  1. Thank you so much for Ruby Tuesdays! My mother was the same age as Ruby and also a nurse. She has been gone for a long time and had Alzheimers for 12 years prior to that. You have given me a little glimpse into what could have been if things were a wee bit different. I love the stories and the wisdom. Love from Texas to Ruby. I want to be just like her when I grow up.

    1. Oh Deb – I am sorry to hear about your Mum…and I am so glad you are enjoying the stories with Ruby. I will be sure to pass on your love from Texas and about your mother to Ruby next time I am in having a cuppa.
      I think we can aspire to be like Ruby quite easily. Keeping your independence, a positive outlook, a welcoming nature, helping others and being able to make a great batch of scones!! A little of all that would go a long way in this world!! I love learning from her! (And imagine living for 100 years!!!!! wow)

    1. I think I would need to be a lot more hungry to eat seaweed as a staple in our diet… but it was an interesting read! Lots of stuff out there that we can forage for to feed ourselves! I use a lot in my garden though and its a big bonus for us living by the sea! Thanks for the link!

  2. Funny that dipping your “bikkie” in tea used to be such a bad thing. Now people are encouraged to dip cookies in milk – wait – was it okay to dip cookies in milk?!

    I find it hilarious that you’re allergic to sewing and while new to it, I love it. I feel the other way about knitting – I would like to do it, but I feel I haven’t the knack.

    Gosh, to have the produce Ruby does… loveliness abound!

    1. I am going to do a post one day for the non-Australians on how to eat a tim-tam with coffee. Its awesome!
      My mother is a dressmaker and so I have never had to sew… then never got into it! I enjoy the knitting as I can do that while watching a movie in the evening – multi-tasking?

      1. Yes, please!

        Ahhh that’s fantastic! Funny thing is, I used to be allergic to sewing myself. I was forced to sew a t-shirt in 8th grade home economics class. I was severely traumatized for a while thereafter. ;P

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